Stop, Pray, Walk Away: Object Lesson on Self Control

There is nothing wrong with being angry.  Anger is a wonderful emotion, to show us that something is wrong.  Typically, one of the primary emotions, like fear or sadness, can be found underneath the anger. … In contrast to fear and sadness, anger can provide a surge of energy and make us feel more in charge, rather than feeling vulnerable or helpless.  According to James 3:2-8, we must not sin when we feel angry.

Here is an object lesson to teach your children about self control when we are angry.

James 3:7-8 “All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.”

Fill up a clear class of water almost to the top with warm water.  Place the glass in a baking dish — for overflow.  Next, add a few drops of food coloring, and 3-4 drops of dish soap into the glass.  Now sprinkle 2 Tablespoons of baking soda on top.  THE FUN PART  — pour in vinegar into the glass.  OVERFLOW!!

Explain to the children that we are the water, and the baking soda is our anger.  The vinegar is our self control, and if we don’t control it — we will sin in our anger.

God’s plan is better — stop, PRAY, and walk away!

A Sanctified Vessel – Object Lesson

That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour.  1 Thessalonians 4:4 KJV

Living a holy life and possessing ourselves with honor includes watching our actions and our thought processes.  How do we dress – do we honor God in how we look?  Do our motives promote cleaning living, or our we careless in our actions around others?  What do we watch on TV, or what movies do we watch?

As Christians we must be careful not to follow the trends of the World, and strive to live a holy life pleasing to God.

1 John 2: 15-17:

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.



This is such a fun science experiment to explain this lesson.  It seemed like everyone from the neighborhood came by our apartment to see what we were doing!  ūüôā

The water represents the world.  The oil in the Jar represents us in Christ.  The red food coloring represents the sins of the world.

I explained to the girls how the oil separates from the water.  See how it shines in the sunlight!?!  This is how God wants us to be — shiny and bright, not of the world.

Sometimes we sin and become like the world.  So we stirred up the oil and water to represent us in sin.   I explained that when we sin — we can repent our sins, and Jesus forgives us.  When then become brand new in Christ – shiny and new again!

As I was talking the oil repealed the food coloring – and began separating from the water.

Greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world!


John 3:16:

 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

God, help me to live a clean life, one that honors You in every way.  Help me to cultivate thoughts and habits pleasing to You.  Amen.


A Soft Answer & Activity: Proverbs 15:1

“A soft answer turneth away wrath; but grievous words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

In the blink of an eye, a simple game of pretend can turn into name calling and bickering.  How many fights and mean words could be avoided if only we could communicate our feelings in a quiet, gentle manner.  How do we make this our first response?

I pondered on how I could teach the lesson of gentleness &¬†soft words — not only to myself, but¬†also to my children. ¬†How could we write this lesson upon our hearts?

I don’t know about you — but I often go to sleep thinking about all my angry mean outburst mommy moments that I had during the day. ¬†I can see my bad habits rubbing off onto my children too — they get so frustrated with each other so easily.

Solomon in all his wisdom must have know about the old saying, “it takes two to argue.” ¬†He said a soft answer would turn away someone’s anger, but harsh words would just stir it up. ¬†This is so true — I argue with my 5 year old so much! ¬†How many battles¬†we would avoid if we would just approach the situation differently.

I’m so glad that God is working on changing my speech &¬†attitude, especially when I am frustrated! ¬†Which I might add is quite the challenge because of my anxiety &¬†PTSD. ¬†I feel the most challenged when my children are not listening!

Here is a fun activity to help teach your children Proverbs 15:1

First, give your children a piece of sandpaper &¬†have them rub it onto their arms. ¬†Ask them, “How does that feel? ¬†Do you want others to rub you with sandpaper?” — ¬†Explain to your children how our anger is like sandpaper. ¬† When we speak out of anger, it feels like sandpaper to others. ¬†Nobody wants to be treated that way!

Next, give your children some cotton-balls. ¬†Let them rub the cotton-balls onto each others¬†skin. ¬†Explain¬†to them that the¬†cotton-balls are like our kind words — they feel good to others.

Read the bible verse to your children again.  Let them know that the bible verse tells us that when someone rubs us with sandpaper, we can rub them with cotton-balls to  turn away their anger.

End the project by putting glue on the sandpaper, and placing the cotton-balls on top.  Let them know that this symbolizes us taking kind words and turning away anger.

Here is a fun song to sing to help remember the verse. ¬†(sing it to “Here We Go Round The Mulberry Bush”)

A soft answer turns away wrath

turns away wrath

turns away wrath

A soft answer turns away wrath

Proverbs 15:1

Kindness Lesson with Toothpaste: Proverbs 12:18

Proverbs 12:18 РThe words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

I spent all weekend hearing my girls getting upset with each other saying things like, “I hate you!” and “You are stupid!”. ¬†This was usually followed by hair pulling, pushing, or hitting. ¬†This of course caused the mom guilt ¬†— how did the happen? ¬†Why are they acting this way? ¬†I must be a terrible mom.

This guilt caused my anxiety to spike, and I found myself hollering just as much as them. ¬†“Stop it!” ¬†“Leave your sister alone” ¬†“Who started it!?”

I went to bed Sunday night feeling exhausted. ¬†Is this really what being a parent is suppose to feel like? ¬†A constant battle. ¬†I don’t think so! ¬†Time to be proactive I thought to my self — and I prayed.

This is what my answer was… a lesson on kindness. ¬†This is what parenting is suppose to be — a way to show life to my girls in away that Jesus would want. ¬†(because my hollering is getting us nowhere, and is just teaching them to scream)

This kindness object lesson with toothpaste¬†is a visual demonstration on how important it is for us to use kind words.¬† There is the saying, ‚ÄúStick and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.‚ÄĚ ¬†I know this is far from the truth — as I was picked on as a child, often playing hookie from school just so I wouldn’t have to be bullied. ¬†AND in my adult years being in two verbal/physical abusive relationships.

This is why I want to teach my girls that words have meaning. ¬†So I decided to teach them that words are like a tube of toothpaste. If used the right way, toothpaste helps clean our teeth &¬†keep our mouth healthy. Words are the same way. If we use our words to cheer someone up and say nice, helpful things — our words can bring joy¬†to¬†someone else.

Sometimes we can get sloppy with our toothpaste. It can end up all over the sink, our hands, and the tube.   It is the same with our words.  Sometimes we aren’t careful with our words, and out of anger and frustration we can say things out of our mouths that can make a mess as well.  We can hurt other peoples feelings.

Check out the blog tomorrow at 8am to read out kindness object lesson with toothpaste. Proberbs 12:18 #wednesdaywisdom

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I gave the girls some tubes of toothpaste to squirt out their toothpaste. ¬†I told them to think of mean hurtful things that they sometimes tell their sister. ¬†I then gave them a q-tip and asked them to try and put the toothpaste back into the tube after they squirted it all out. ¬†Explaining it was the same as saying “sorry” or “just kidding”. ¬†They found that it wasn’t easy to put the toothpaste back into the tube. ¬†I explained it is the same as words, that once you say them sometimes it doesn’t take the sting way, and that person may still be hurt. ¬†(a mess)

The Bible says ‚ÄúReckless words pierce like a sword.‚ÄĚ — Just like the toothpaste words, they make messes in our lives and in others.

The Bible continues to say, ‚Äúbut the tongue of the wise brings healing‚ÄĚ Proverbs 12:18. I explained to the girls that we want our words to be helpful to people. Just like toothpaste, when we use it right can keep us healthy. ¬†We want to use our words to help bring joy and health to our friends, family and neighbors.

I explained to the girls that I want them to be life-givers known for their gentleness and compassion.  It is something that this world so desperately needs.  And, it is something we all need to work on (me included).