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As a single mom, I know firsthand how difficult it can be to balance work, household responsibilities, and parenting. When you add past traumas and mental health struggles to the mix, it can feel impossible to be fully present with your children. However, being present with our kids is crucial for their emotional and mental well-being, as well as our own. Here are some practical tips for being present with your kids despite trauma and life’s demands.
- Set aside intentional time for your children. This could be as simple as 30 minutes of undivided attention every day, where you put away your phone and focus solely on your child. Let them choose the activity, and be fully present in the moment.
- Seek professional help if needed. Trauma and mental health struggles can make it difficult to be fully present with your children. Seeking professional help can help you work through these issues and learn coping mechanisms that will allow you to be more present with your kids.
- Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present in the moment. It can be as simple as taking a few deep breaths and focusing on your child’s smile, or tuning in to the sounds and smells around you. Being mindful can help you stay present and enjoy the little moments with your child.
- Let go of guilt. It’s easy to feel guilty when you’re not able to be fully present with your kids. However, it’s important to remember that we’re all human and we all have limitations. Let go of the guilt and focus on the moments you can be fully present with your child.
- Prioritize self-care. Taking care of yourself is crucial for being present with your kids. Make sure you’re getting enough rest, eating healthy, and engaging in activities that bring you joy. When you take care of yourself, you’ll be better able to take care of your children.
Being present with our kids is a gift, both to them and to ourselves. It’s not always easy, but by practicing mindfulness, seeking help when needed, and prioritizing intentional time with our children, we can create meaningful connections that will last a lifetime.