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Leaving an abusive relationship can be like breaking off a piece of your heart, but saving yourself and others from further harm is often necessary. As a survivor of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse myself, I know how hard the healing process can be. It takes time and involves peeling off layers of pain and trauma, but there is hope.
For me, that hope came from my relationship with Jesus. I found unconditional love, forgiveness, grace, and renewal through Him. Spending time with Him daily has helped me replace the lies and false guilt with the truth and cope with the many feelings that come up along the way.
But faith is not the only tool in my healing toolbox. I’ve also found music to be a powerful way to cope with my emotions and connect with my inner self. That’s why I’ve created an “Abuse Survivors Playlist” that includes a mix of songs that have helped me validate my feelings, find hope, and empower myself. Some of these songs are Christian, but not all, as I believe that healing can come from different sources.
In addition to the playlist, I also have several Christian playlists on my Spotify account that I use when I feel hopeless, alone, anxious, or heartbroken. Of course, these things have worked for me personally, and I’m not a doctor or therapist, so please seek professional help if needed.
If you’re struggling with the aftermath of abuse, I encourage you to check out my playlist and see if any of the songs resonate with you. Remember that healing is a journey, not a destination, and taking it one step at a time is okay. And if you need professional help, don’t hesitate to reach out to a therapist or support group. You are not alone, and you deserve to live a life free from abuse and full of love.
Below is my “Abuse Survivors Playlist.” (Over 200 Songs):
As a survivor of abuse, I know firsthand how difficult it can be to heal from the trauma and move forward. But I also know that it’s possible and that faith and music can be powerful tools in the healing journey.
For me, music has been a way to express my emotions and connect with my faith. Whether I’m listening to worship music or making up my own songs in prayer, music has helped me process my pain and find hope in the midst of darkness.
But music alone is not enough. I’ve also relied on my faith in Jesus to guide me through the healing process. I’ve found comfort in knowing that I am never alone and that God is always with me, listening to my prayers and guiding me toward healing.
One of my favorite Bible verses that comfort me during difficult times is Psalm 34:18: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” This verse reminds me that even when I feel alone and broken, God is near and cares about my pain.
If you’re a survivor of abuse, know that you are not alone. There are resources available to help you heal and move forward. Here are some resources, coping strategies, warning signs, encouragement, and safety tips that have been helpful for me:
Resources:
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
LoveIsRespect.org: Online chat and phone support for teens and young adults experiencing dating abuse
Coping Strategies:
Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a powerful way to process your emotions and gain clarity.
Mindfulness exercises: Practicing mindfulness can help you stay present and calm in the midst of stress and anxiety.
Creative outlets: Whether it’s painting, drawing, or playing an instrument, finding a creative outlet can be a way to express your emotions and find joy in the midst of pain.
Warning Signs:
Isolation: If your partner tries isolating you from friends and family, this could be a warning sign of abuse.
Jealousy and possessiveness: If your partner is overly jealous or possessive, this could be a warning sign of abuse.
Verbal abuse: If your partner frequently belittles you or puts you down, this could be a warning sign of abuse.
Encouragement:
Healing is possible. It may take time and effort, but it is possible to heal from the trauma of abuse and move forward toward a brighter future.
You are not alone. There are many others who have gone through similar experiences and are here to support you.
You are strong. Surviving abuse takes incredible strength and courage; you should be proud of yourself for making it this far.
Safety Tips:
Create a safety plan. If you are in danger, create a plan to keep yourself safe, such as memorizing emergency phone numbers and identifying safe places to go.
Seek a restraining order. If you are in danger from an abusive partner, a restraining order can help protect you.
Change your phone number. If your partner is harassing you via phone or text, consider changing your number to cut off contact.
Remember, healing is a journey, and taking things one day at a time is okay. You deserve to be safe, healthy, and happy, and resources are available to help you get there.
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