The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 12:18
I spent all weekend hearing my girls getting upset with each other saying things like, “I hate you!” and “You are stupid!”. This was usually followed by hair pulling, pushing, or hitting. This of course caused the mom guilt — how did the happen? Why are they acting this way? I must be a terrible mom.
This guilt caused my anxiety to spike, and I found myself hollering just as much as them. “Stop it!” “Leave your sister alone” “Who started it!?”
I went to bed Sunday night feeling exhausted. Is this really what being a parent is suppose to feel like? A constant battle. I don’t think so! Time to be proactive I thought to my self — and I prayed.
This is what my answer was… a lesson on kindness. This is what parenting is suppose to be — a way to show life to my girls in a way that Jesus would want. (because my hollering is getting us nowhere, and is just teaching them to scream)
This kindness object lesson with toothpaste is a visual demonstration on how important it is for us to use kind words. There is the saying, “Stick and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This is far from the truth.
This is why I want to teach my girls that words have matter.
The Meaning of this Lesson
Using a tube of toothpaste, demonstrate how words can have the power of life or death.
If used the right, toothpaste helps clean our teeth & keep our mouth healthy. Words are the same way. If we used correctly our words can heal, encourage, inspire, and love others. They are life giving, and bring joy to others.
However, sometimes we can get sloppy with our toothpaste. It can end up all over the sink, our hands, and the tube. It is the same with our words. Sometimes we aren’t careful with our words, and out of anger and frustration we can say things out of our mouths that is messy. We can hurt other peoples feelings.
the object lesson
I gave the girls some tubes of toothpaste and asked them to squirt it all out onto a plate. I told them to think of all the mean hurtful things that they tell each other. I then gave them a q-tip and asked them to try and put the toothpaste back into the tube. They found that it wasn’t easy to put the toothpaste back into the tube. I explained that once hurtful words leave your mouth, you can’t take them back. They can still hurt even after you say you’re sorry.
The Bible says “Reckless words pierce like a sword.”
The Bible continues to say, “but the tongue of the wise brings healing” Proverbs 12:18.
I explained to the girls that we want our words to be life-giving to people. Just like toothpaste, when used right it keeps us healthy. We want to use our words to help bring joy to our friends and family.
I explained to the girls that I want them to be known for their gentleness and compassion. It is something that this world so desperately needs. And, it is something we all need to work on (including myself).
“Pleasant words are as a honeycomb: sweet to the soul and health to the bones.” Proverbs 16:24
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Have a blessed day!